Friendship...10.19.09

This post was written about one year ago. It still holds true, so I'm posting it...

Look, it's been a L-O-N-G time since I've actually made any kind of post (outside of a quote) to my blog. And I promise I will soon, but I couldn't pass up the opportunity to write what's on my mind right now.

This past weekend, I went to visit my best friend, Moe, in Dallas. Some people don't understand why I make the 5-hour trek just to spend a couple of nights with my BFF. It's my home away from home - where I can recharge my batteries; where love and support are given non-stop; where thoughts/opinions are voiced and not judged; where my laughter is constantly being heard. My husband gets it. He encourages me to go all the time. He knows the bond Moe and I share.

That bond means a lot to me. Only a couple of people know the "real" me. (Not the friend, not the sister, not the mom or any other...just me.). In all reality, Moe's second only to my husband. We've learned lots from one another. I've probably learned more from her than she's ever realized. She's the model of motherhood that I try to emulate - firm, fun, spiritual, wise, patient; but most of all, loving! She's an amazing aunt to her nieces and nephews - opening their eyes to the many views that life has to offer. Views that otherwise these children might never see. Hell, she was even the person that introduced me to tequila!

Sometimes you’re let down, sometimes you’re the one who lets someone else down. It gets hard to know who you can trust, who you can count on. I count on Moe. She's the great friend I have in life. The one to which all other friends are compared to. The one I know will be there for years to come. I have been told by many that a friendship like ours doesn't come along everyday. They are right.

I love my husband; I love my sister; I love my friends...and I love my BFF.

Lifetime

A few weeks ago, I prayed for a friend, someone whom I was very close to. I no longer hear from this person (and there were many attempts on my part), but I offered our friendship up to God and let Him guide me on what to do next. Today, I received this email from a random friend...

"People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person..
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.

The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime."

God has His ways....